According to the American Society for Reproductive Medicine, many patients have compared the amount stress from undergoing fertility treatments to the stress of other major life events, like the death of a loved one or divorce. Even though the experience is a personal one and different for each patient, one of the things that can ease the emotions of infertility and the treatments is knowledge. Knowledge is power, they say, and being in the know about your body can help.
In life, there are few greater fears than uncertainty and that’s especially the case when it comes to our bodies and health. Having trouble conceiving can set your mind racing with a bunch of whys. Why is this happening? Why can’t I get pregnant? Why didn’t this or that treatment work? Why is my body doing this to me? All of these unanswered questions can add to the stress of infertility and cause you worry about other aspects of your health. Taking the time to get these questions answered and to learn what is happening to your body can ease the feeling of helplessness that you might be feeling otherwise.
Getting the Information You Want and Need
You already know that the internet is home to all kinds of information about infertility, but how do you know what you should be looking for? For starters, you need to keep in mind that the information found online and in books is general information. As many other couple’s stories as you may read, always remember that everyone—and I mean everyone—will have their own experience and opinions when it comes to infertility and treatments. General information about fertility and treatments is important because it can give you an idea of what to expect and what your possible options are as far as the different treatments and resources available.
Look for information on things that you can do to help gain some sense of control, such as diet and exercise and other lifestyle changes that can impact fertility. If you have any other medical conditions, such as diabetes or PCOS, learning more about the role they play in infertility is also important.
Along with general information about infertility, you should also speak to a professional about your specific case. This is your best bet in getting the answers to all of those “whys” and then some. When speaking to a fertility specialist, remember the following:
- Have a list of your questions ready for your appointment with you so that you don’t forget what you want to ask.
- Don’t be afraid to ask your questions or for clarification if there’s something you’re not clear about. They’re there to help you.
Gathering as much information as you can about your body and the cause of your infertility won’t only help to alleviate some of the stress and ease some of the emotions of infertility, but it will also ensure that you’re better informed when it comes to making any decisions about treatment, should you decide to pursue any. For those who chose to not pursue treatment, answers to your questions and a thorough understanding about your infertility could provide some peace of mind and even help bring some much-needed closure.
Adrienne is a freelance writer and author who has written extensively on all things health and lifestyle for more than a decade. When she’s not holed-up in her writing shed researching an article or off interviewing health professionals for Healthline, she can be found frolicking around her beach town with husband and dogs in tow or splashing about the lake trying to master the stand-up paddle board. You can connect with Adrienne on Facebook at https://www.facebook.com/writeradrienne.
- Preparing for IVF: Emotional Considerations . American Society for Reproductive Medicine. Retrieved July 17, 2014, from http://www.asrm.org/detail.aspx?id=1902.
- Managing Infertility Stress. The National Infertility Association. Retrieved July 17, 2014, from http://www.resolve.org/support-and-services/Managing-Infertility-Stress/.